For many small business owners, the end of the year responsibilities and holiday season crunch — both at work and home — make it easy to feel overwhelmed, rushed, even irritated by family members and others around us. Stop, relax and read the following advice for coping with the next few weeks from zenhabits.net’s Leo Babauta.

The following takes practice. As you can see, it’s basically the same advice for three related mental patterns. And again, it takes practice. You’ll mess up, but that’s okay. Smile and enjoy the practice.

Notice each time you feel rushed, anxious or overwhelmed

Try to develop an awareness of it throughout the day. The sooner you can catch it, the better. Make it a game: try to see it when it happens, as often as you can.

When you feel rushed, catch yourself and pause

Notice your mental habit of rushing, rushing to the next thing. Don’t let yourself waste your time with that habit. Instead, try building a new mental pattern: pausing, relaxing with the feeling that’s in your body, and then doing the single task in front of you, letting that be your entire world. Trust that you’ll be able to handle the next task after it without worrying about it right now. Enjoy the doing of the task in front of you.

When you feel anxious, catch yourself and pause

Notice your mental habit of letting anxiety carry you off into a chain reaction of worry. Don’t let yourself waste your time with that habit. Instead, try building a new mental pattern: pausing, relaxing with the feeling that’s in your body, and then trusting that you can handle the uncertainty in front of you. Embrace the uncertainty and smile at it, relaxing into it.

When you feel overwhelmed, catch yourself and pause.

Notice your mental habit of thinking about all you have to do and feeling anxious about being able to do it all. Don’t let yourself waste your time with that habit. Instead, try building a new mental pattern: pausing, relaxing with the feeling that’s in your body, taking things one task at a time, breathing and enjoying that task. Trust that you’ll be able to do everything you need to do, and that you’ll be OK.

VIA | zen habits “The Mental Habit of Feeling Rushed & Overwhelmed” (by Leo Babauta with thanks.)

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